For as long as I can remember, one of my hobbies has been watching people. Now, when I say I enjoy watching people I don’t mean I like to climb into trees and watch them get dressed for the day. No. That’s just plain creepy. What I mean is that I like to watch how people react in certain situations, how they treat each other, and the consequences of how a person treats another. I don’t know why I like to do this, I guess I kind of use my observations as a template to how I treat others and as a way to better understand how my actions can affect someone else.
The details in how I got into people watching are pretty boring, basically I just paid attention to people and learned how to recognize patterns in their behavior.
Sometimes for funzies I like to try and predict someone’s behavior in a certain situation and then wait and see what’ll happen. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t think I can predict someones behavior, because I know that people are spontaneous and that they do unpredictable things on a regular basis. However, I do think that it’s interesting to see how much I know about people in general. My accuracy usually depends on how well I know the person, how long I’ve watched them, or if they exhibit a pattern that I recognize. If I know them fairly well and if I get to observe that person long enough so that I can modify my theory than I’m fairly accurate.
For example, there’s this couple of my school who have been together for a while. I’m going to be extremely vague so they can’t get mad at me and also to protect their privacy. In any case this particular couple likes to be very outwardly affectionate and to the outside world it would appear that they are the perfect couple. However, like many things that are too good to be true, so is the “perfect” relationship. I knew that she was very sensitive and needs someone to be empathetic, and I knew that he was not the most empathetic person on the planet. I figured that unless he became more empathetic or she became less emotional then a breakup was just a matter of time. As time went on I noticed that his behavior towards us never changed, if anything it got worse, and so I knew that if nothing changed outside the relationship, nothing changed on the inside. I made that prediction a few months ago and sure enough that couple almost did break up, for that exact reason.
I really wish I would be able to make such predictions about my life and my relationship, but of course it’s hard to be objective when you honestly and truly care about the outcome of those predictions. Usually they’re biased and mixed with whatever emotion I feel towards that person at that point in time, which makes accurately guessing the outcome of anything in the future almost impossible.
Either way, I like to watch people. It’s fun, it’s interesting, and it teaches you how you should treat others in order to be a better person.